Dealing with Feelings

Yet, they say the lines in the face are a roadmap of one's life.  Reading the lines on the faces, those deeply worn in and those just beginning to show, says so much more and is so very different than the outward illusion.   This family, like so many of others, are living the very limited spectrum of life by controlling the real experiential properties of living called feelings.  Rather than having them, knowing it and allowing oneself to deal with them, they are denied and stuffed deep inside to deepen the craters of what I've called "the living in theory"  versus living a full, real and meaningful life.   We are what we are now, life is change, and we need to move along with it.  Feelings, or better said, experiencing things truthfully helps us evolve as we get to know ourselves and, in turn, truly be able to relate to others.   Self control is absolutely critical, don't get me wrong, we are always responsible for what we are and what we do, without reservation.  Control, though, when it entails the stuffing of feelings, the denial of how life touches us, is where the problems start.

Personally, I believe that we have a responsibility to make a difference in the world, and that the goal is to always improve ourselves in all regards; physically, mentally and spiritually and to align others in the same positive direction.  How in the world can anyone deal in a real world without dealing with the way that they feel about themselves and the world?  I just don't get it.  You've heard the old saying about "the straw that broke the camel's back", and it graphically shows the picture that can be seen when feelings have been stuffed to the point of an eruption.  Perhaps another way of drawing this picture is to say that feelings denied grow in and of themselves, attach themselves to other things stuffed away inside already to create this ever-growing pile.  Each feeling, were it experienced and dealt with in the moment, would likely have been of great value and minimal consequence.  Yet, saved, denied or ignored, gets added to what grows painful inside with time and is very real.  Feelings won't be ignored and will not go away, BUT can be internalized for a moment to work towards understanding them and owning them, taking responsibility for them and then ultimately growing from them.  Clearly the actions that you choose in response to a feeling is never violent, hurtful/harmful to yourself or anyone else.  Talking and sharing is key to resolving bad feelings, good feelings work well all by themselves.

Ideally, the example family cited earlier can deepen the experiences of their lives by actually living them versus behaving only outwardly.  Their talks become richer, feelings are shared in terms of the good ones and bad ones.  Truth in living comes to play, and people actually get to know each other within the family and throughout their experiences with others.  Honest, open communications as to how "I FEEL" versus our guess at "HOW OTHERS FEEL", is the key.  We can only know ourselves, really, and often that takes a full lifetime, since we're always changing and change is what life is all about.  Change for the better, give yourself a real chance to live and experience yourself, your soul and others.  Listen to the words in songs, poems and other dreamers who share feelings ... 

Deal with your feelings honestly, and work with them.  Choose to understand your feelings, and resolve them ... don't let them line your face by denial, don't let the feelings play with your life ... play with life and enjoy your feelings along the way!  Be real,  be kind,  live well.  ":0)